Why Writers Have Trouble Establishing a Writing Habit
A writing habit is one of the best methods you can form to help you stay committed to your writing journey, but why do writers have such trouble establishing a writing habit?
Today I’m discussing three excuses writers use to explain why they can’t establish a writing habit and suggestions on how to break down those limiting beliefs.
Habit formation is directly linked to self-determination. The good news is that everyone can be trained to be self-determined. So even if you consider yourself the ambivalent sort, you can learn how to be more motivated to accomplish your goals.
Your first order of business is to figure out what exactly is preventing you from establishing a daily writing habit. Once you nail that down, it’s important for you to understand this is a limiting belief. For some reason, you’re not accessing your inner power (this is your special dose of magic that you can apply to ANYTHING and make the things you want happen).
EXCUSE #1: TOO MANY INTERRUPTIONS
From what I’ve seen around writers’ circles, “interruptions out of my control” is the top reason writers say they struggle with establishing a daily writing habit. I totally get it. As a stubborn Scot, I’m quite good at sticking with a decision once I make it. But no matter how stubborn I am, if there is an external factor out of my control that detours me, then the writing is usually affected.
Key phrase: out of my control.
We need to be brutally honest with ourselves. Is that external factor truly, 110% out of our control? And if it is, have we done absolutely everything within our control to pivot so that we still get the writing done (even if it means shifting it to another time of the day, or doubling up on a session later in the week)? Or have we called it a loss and moved on?
I know it’s hard to deal with initially, but if we look at things like this as Life testing our mettle, then we might have enough oomph to put up a bit of a fight. Even with interruptions out of our control, that doesn’t mean we have to lose that day of writing entirely. As I mentioned above, shifting our session to another time of day or tacking it onto another session later in the week, or writing during a so-called “non-writing day” can help us get right back into the writing saddle.
If interruptions are that regular for you, then stop looking at your writing schedule on a daily or even a weekly basis. Look at it across a span of three, four, or six months instead. Don’t break down your word count or page count totals to a daily average. Keep them focused on what you believe you can accomplish within a longer time span.
While I think journaling every day could be beneficial to help you keep your writing head in the game, if those sessions also are victimized by interruptions, then do them twice a week instead.
EXCUSE #2: NOT MOTIVATED
The other reason many writers have trouble forming a daily writing habit is because they are unmotivated. There is a seeming lack of a reward at the end of the writing session. By reward, I don’t mean chocolate or money, but a benefit to the behavior of writing.
Side note: I do think Reward/Consequence is an amazing strategy to help us form habits, however, it does depend on your personality. If you’re only doing it for the chocolate at the end of the session, then what’s the quality of your writing looking like? Food for thought . . .
Think of something you do habitually, whether it’s how you make breakfast, or the route you take to work, or opening your emails. Why do you do these things every day? Because you have a preconceived notion of an outcome. You will have food to eat, you will get to your job, you will finally hear from that literary agent.
The more positive the behavior the more likely you'll make it a habit because the outcome will be positive too. Some writers who struggle with making a habit of daily writing aren’t getting immediate gratification at the end of each session. It would be no surprise that the act of writing daily would feel useless and boring, and ultimately the writer loses interest and motivation.
For some writers, it might be enough to see that they’ve increased their word count. But that outcome isn’t enough to motivate all writers. If that’s you, then you need to set up another positive outcome (reward) to help motivate you to write every day, and because every writer might have a different idea of what constitutes a positive outcome, you need to tune into your natural writing forces.
Giving yourself a 15-minute warm-up session (with no expectation attached) will often be enough to amp up your motivation, and you’ll find yourself wanting to write beyond the 15 minutes because you’ve now engaged your creativity.
Sometimes we just need to get the juices flowing.
Have you ever noticed how much easier it is to tend to a dreaded chore, task, or expectation once you get started and are thoroughly engaged?
For example, I dread structured exercise, or going to the gym. (I much prefer walking on the beach or hiking in the mountains, but that isn’t always possible. Still, I must exercise.) I have to drag myself to the gym or force myself to start my routine, and I’m grumpy about it. But then, after about fifteen minutes, something interesting occurs. I have found a rhythm and feeling good about my decision. The adrenaline has kicked in. I’m engaged, committed, and willing to see it through to the end.
I find this to be true of sitting down to write. Sometimes, the anticipation, the getting to the page, is worse than the actual act of writing. But if you give yourself sufficient warm-up (probably 15 minutes or so), you may find that your mood actually shifts—suddenly you’re writing for an hour without realizing it. Warming up actually leads to increased productivity, as long as you give it a chance.
EXCUSE #3: I HAVE OTHER THINGS TO DO (aka I’M SCARED)
Come on. You knew I had to talk about it, right? Many of us don’t want to admit that fear is a possible culprit of our weird time shortage (like, seriously, how is that Author Blue can write 5,000 words every day? Where does she find the time? Hmm, I wonder …)
Seriously, though, many writers falter with a daily writing habit due to fear (even though they may not be consciously aware of it). Fear of writer’s block. Fear of completing the project. Fear of not completing the project. Fear of quality. Fear of not being good enough. Fear of embarrassing our family. Fear of embarrassing ourselves. Fear of bad reviews. And on and on. This fear is so real that we invent reasons to not write:
I have piles of laundry to take care of.
I must walk the dog.
Grocery shopping needs to be done.
I’ll write tomorrow.
I’m exhausted.
Ideas aren’t coming today.
Ideas are coming, but they suck.
My novel sucks.
I suck.
I suck so bad not even time wants to be my friend.
Those reasons aren't worthy enough to put aside your writing. Sure, laundry needs to be washed and the dog taken care of, but if you’re doing those things during your writing session instead of writing, then fear (or some relation to fear, like resistance, avoidance, anxiety, etc) has the upper hand.
A writing session needs to be devoted to writing. Nothing else. If you have an overload of chores or other kinds of responsibilities, and they’re leaking into the cracks of your writing session, then dagnabbit, fill those cracks! Take another look at your weekly schedule and restructure it! If you’re suffering from lack of inspiration or writer’s block or some other kind of creative shortage, then you need to go back to your basics:
Is your writing space comfortable and efficient?
Are you working at a high creative energy time of the day/night?
Are your teammates helping you out where needed?
Have you minimized all distractions?
Are you tending to your creative spirit?
Do you need a creativity time-out?
Bottom line—always question yourself when you claim that you have no time to write. Sure, here and there, “having no time” is a legit reason. But if this is an ongoing, consistent reason you keep hooking into, then it is, without a doubt, a limiting belief.
WE ALWAYS HAVE TIME TO DO THE THINGS WE GENUINELY WANT TO DO, BECAUSE WE KNOW HOW TO MAKE THE TIME FOR THOSE THINGS.
So it’s worth reflecting upon and getting honest with yourself. Once you can figure out why you can't form a daily writing habit, you'll be able to strategize methods to help you find your best system so that you can start writing every day and get those projects done!